How To Handle Being A Widow

When a woman loses her husband who is her soulmate, her love, her friend, the magnitude of the loss does not hit her immediately as she is almost always in denial.

When I lost my husband 10 years ago leaving me 2 months pregnant and with 2 small children, I thought that my whole life had come to an end. I didn't know who to turn to and I expected my friends to understand what I was going through and stop what they were doing to rally around me 24-7.

Well, that was not to be and I came to the sad realization that it was up to me to pick up the pieces of my life and step into the big shoes that my husband had left behind. Slowly, I embraced my new role and grew stronger. The loneliness was incredible but I kept holding on, knowing that God hadn't forgotten me.

Each night seemed darker than the last and it was only the birth of my daughter that finally brought a smile to my lips and joy to my grieving heart. Four years later, as I looked back at the tough times that I had to endure, I realized that I had made it only by the grace of God.

Who would have thought that the friends that I held so dear would turn their backs on me, whispering behind my back that they wanted nothing to do with a widow around their husbands? No longer was I welcome to gatherings that were attended by couples. I increasingly found refuge with my children and threw my weight behind bringing them up in the best possible way.

I proposed that nothing and no one would get me down. I realized that it was up to me to be everything that I was created to be. I adapted the following and now live a wonderful and fulfilling life:

1. I started praying like I had never done before and allowed God to replace my husband.
2. I completely changed my attitude and started finding something to thank God for every day.
3. I accepted that if I was going to be happy, it was up to me and I started finding joy in the smallest things.
4. I refused to feel sorry for myself and started looking for people that I could help.
5. I realised that being a widow is not a life sentence and people will treat you the way that you want to be treated.

I am now a successful woman who motivates others and who finds joy in life. I do not take anything for granted and I thank God who in His infinite mercy has made life so beautiful for me and my three wonderful children.

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